They say it takes 21 days to truly break a habit.
I’m not sure how true that is, but I do know that I just had to stop myself from sending out another query.
I got yet another rejection, and I had to stop myself from sending a query to another agent at that house.
I could, I guess… I did say that I’d query everyone possible on BLOODBOUND, my fifth and last heavily queried title. But when I poke at my heart it hurts so damned badly at even the idea of putting another query letter together that I know I can’t do it.
That I shouldn’t do it.
That I’d be damaging myself further by doing so and that no, really, it’s not worth it.
So many people say… it only takes one yes! With regard to attracting an agent.
Not even a yes is going to be worth the pain I’ve self-inflicted by continuing to query in the face of 5 books worth of rejections.
Especially when readers love my stories.
Even if I DID get an offer of representation, AND chose to accept it… it still wouldn’t heal the damage.
I don’t know how people can think it would. Only one yes?
Sure, it only takes one.
But it’s one that I feel isn’t likely to come for me, and I’m just too tired to keep slogging through these trenches.
I tried to write yesterday, I found 560 or so words. It was like pulling teeth and does not at all feel like writing usually does for me (a joy). It felt painful and made me unhappy with myself.
Querying has taken my joy of writing from me. So no, I won’t send that query. There are 5 other agents at that agency I could query, that I had listed as being potentially interested in my work.
But no. I’m done. I have to be.
I don’t have joy in life for many reasons I’ve already discussed on my blog, but a large portion of that ability to feel joy has been bled away by querying, so yeah. I have to be done.
If that means I fail to query the ONE agent who might give me that ONE yes? Unfortunately, that’d be another cost of what querying has done to me.
The broken system has broken me. I’m not the only marginalized writer who has been broken by it all.
I’m just the latest.